The first thing you can do is to join RESOLVE’S Bloggers Unite Campaign. The theme is”Don’t Ignore…” Here’s what I want to share:
Most of us begin our journey of trying to conceive with a blissful naivete. We plan, we take precautions, we have everything in place to welcome our bouncing bundle of joy in 9 months.
Most of us enter this fight without even knowing we’re in a battle.
So it’s not surprising that infertility can shake us to our core.
It blindsides us with a left hook and there’s no doubt about it-
infertility does not play a fair fight.
Infertility doesn’t care how much money we make, what our religion is or where we were born.
It doesn’t care that we have plans for our lives and dreams for our unborn babies.
Certainly, these are conversations that go on in infertile households, or-at the very least-in the minds of infertiles, all the time. I’ve been there, too. There were many days during our 3 1/2 year struggle to our daughter, Wren, when I wasn’t sure I could stand in the ring for another moment, let alone keep swinging.
And even now, as we move forward with trying for baby #2, those old familiar second-guesses that infertility brings are lingering in the corners of the ring.
Don’t ignore those feelings. They’re valid. They’re normal. They’re yours.
But I also want to remind you not to ignore your desire to become a parent.
That is also valid.
The one message I try to share when I talk about my infertility journey is one of gratitude. Surprising to some, but yes-I am thankful for the battle we fought. I’m proud to wear the badge of honor. I’m proud that we made it out of the ring with our hands held high in victory. While I don’t wish it on anyone, my goal is always to share a message of hope.
If I had bought into my second-guessing and the questions that infertility brought, I wouldn’t have Wren. And having Wren is a reward far greater than I could ever have imagined. If your heart desires a child, you will become a parent. You might be surprised by the path life leads you, but there are many ways to build a family and the important thing to remember is that your family WILL be worth the difficult journey you’re on.